I've changed my rules of specifications for potential suitors. No Malay guys. Let me be more politically correct: No Muslim Malaysian men. The Islamic Family Law bill has opened my eyes even more to the status of women in Malaysia.
Yes, they get cheated on a plenty with fresh faced competitors half their age and their co-wives to be. Yes, we have wimpy males who would rather divorce their wives via SMS rather than face to face. Yes, we have tyrants greedy for a share of their spouses property since the poor fellows seem to lose money at the local karaoke joints again and again. But never had I thought that these things were fully legal. Until now.
Currently I'm with a man who still needs to convert to marry me. Should he convert I sincerely hope it will be somewhere else far, far away from these ridiculous new family laws. Otherwise, I shudder to think of the mindset he might develop, throwing away the family values he grew up with: A mum, a dad and a sister. No divorces. No stepmothers. No step siblings. No head banging court procedures of who will get custody of what down to the chinaware.
Promises have been made to amend the new bill. However, what type of amendments and when they will be made, we have yet to know. Maybe a few spell checks on spelling errors in the Arabic terms mentioned. Maybe some new additions like compulsive dresswear for women and 'advised' career guidelines for the working mothers. Perhaps even a new total number of wives for our Muslim brothers. Who knows?
Let's hope our females of the future won't have to marry their own rapist. Perhaps the new bill may challenge the terms 'rape and incest' too. I shudder to think what would happen to a girl if her trusted male guardian forces himself on her in the future, but who am I to feel? I'm just an emotional-ridden woman like the rest of them.
It may seem unfair to say such biased comments towards Malay men. Of course, there are some sane men out there who realise that one woman is more than enough and that divorce is not a time to play around with people's feelings and property. However, I have yet to hear any of the Malay men speak out publicly against this bill. All I have heard and read are angered voices of educated women who are forced to follow such an uneducated set of rules.
In the meantime ladies, don't bother going for local products. Try international brands instead. They go through far more stringent procedures to bring you the best. *wink wink*