I am a divorced and a father of two sons. The court granted custody of my two children to my ex-wife with visiting rights for me as well as an order to pay maintenance. My wife - and her mother - however, have refused to follow the court's orders as far as my visiting rights are concerned.

Whenever I want to visit my boys, there is always an excuse. In fact, my ex-wife has told me that I can only see the children on her terms and not according to the court's order. She has also told the kids that I was dead.

My pleas for the children to have their father's love have gone unheeded. My ex-wife is using the custody of the children as a weapon and has become arrogant or revengeful. I have to beg and beg and beg her to let me see our children.

I call upon concerned divorced Malaysian fathers to help set-up a local chapter of Fathers 4 Justice to help stop the victimisation of our children. This is for the emotional benefit and well-being of all separated children.

Normally, it is divorced mothers who obstruct court orders to let children (who are under their custody) see their fathers. Although this is a contempt of court, judges are often reluctant to impose punishment with the most common excuse being 'Who is going to take care of the children if the mothers is jailed?'

Please note that this Fathers 4 Justice is not a male chauvinistic organisation. It also has a women's branch called Purplehearts that supports the idea of encouraging contacts between divorced parents (not only fathers) and their children.