For fear of losing and failing
Everyone wishes to win and pass with flying colours, and the fear of losing and failing simply results in striving for more wins. Yet, to some, the fear of failure and losing is definitely the end of the road.
Not continuing with what you are doing is the absolute best portrayal for disappointment and in disappointment, you will lose.
We all have different definitions of failure, simply because we all have different benchmarks, values, and belief systems. A failure to one person might simply be a great learning experience for someone else.
Many of us are afraid of failing, at least some of the time. But fear of failure (also called ‘atychiphobia’) is when we allow that fear to stop us doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals.
Many athletes fear passing the ball inaccurately or students fear having a grade of less than ‘A’ or 4.0. The wonderful thing about failure is that it’s entirely up to us to decide how to look at it.
At the point when not held under tight restraints, these fears will be fears of disappointment where one has completely fizzled at the game or task.
In fact, this individual or people may feel unworthy of anything in life, including their self-esteem. At the point when these illustrations are introduced to an individual who fears losing, then they will dependably need to win increasingly and at a higher rate.
This individual longs to win more since he or she doesn’t make an interpretation of the misfortunes into disappointments.
We as a whole realise that triumph is the best feeling. We’re in charge. Everything is bound in terrific support with ourselves as well as other people.
Many of the greatest people in history hated losing more than winning. It was convenient for them that winning was present and their philosophy of fearing losing matched exactly with that of winning.
The one that fears disappointment is the failure. However, it is incredible that after many years these persons may give up fear of failure and simply want to win more, and it works for them through trial and error.
Failure can also teach us things about ourselves that we would never have learned otherwise. For instance, failure can help you discover how strong a person you are. Failing at something can help you discover your truest friends, or help you find unexpected motivation to succeed.
Hardly any honing is offered around there. The vast majority will remain retired with disgust and failure on their minds and potentially be failures forever.
‘There are no failures’
By and by, the word disappointment should not ever be utilised. There are no failures and nothing should be translated into failure by ourselves and those important to us.
Disappointment is a terrific assault work that obliterates youngsters. Just go up against your losses for what they are, which is not winning. You will then need to win more. You will then exceed expectations in the greater part of your attempts.
Start by setting small goals that will help build your confidence. Learn how to explore and evaluate all possible outcomes rationally and develop contingency plans; and practice thinking positively. By moving forward slowly but steadily, you'll begin to overcome your fear.
It’s important to realise that in everything we do, there’s always a chance that we'll fail. Facing that chance, and embracing it, is not only courageous - it also gives us a fuller, more rewarding life.
It’s almost impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of failure. People who do so probably live so cautiously that they go nowhere. Put simply, they’re not really living at all.
AZIZI AHMAD is an educator.
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