LETTER | Today March 8, it will be four years since Malaysia Airlines flight MH370 disappeared. Fours since I was alerted that several of my very close friends and others had not come home.

And four years, my life is still upside down. Four years of roller-coaster mysteries, myths, claims, counter-claims, projections, counter-projections and worst of all, super-bickering, vulgarities and all things unpleasant.

In these four years, so many actors and actresses all claimed to serve the cause. In these four years, some have started running unregistered NGOs and making speeches in Malaysia over MH370.

In the four years, debris collectors have not handed over all that was acquired under various pretences.

Some were handed over to the Malaysian authorities and others still retained illegally by these groups and individuals who do not have the legal right to withhold information.

These individuals, I am advised, are Australians and we hold the Australian government responsible to see that the alleged debris - MH370 passengers' possessions and items - are returned to us so that we can address and attempt to piece together what really happened.

I also raise the need to question those claiming to have found these items and ask them to make affidavits as to how, where, why and by what means they were acquired.

There seem to be far too many secrets here. For far too long we have allowed these third parties to run wild managing this narrative instead of us Malaysians doing it.

Also, for some strange reason, we are told that a site in Perth will honour the 239 people on board when the plane went missing in 2014 and recognise Australia's role in the failed recovery mission.

Seriously, Australia decides? Is Australia the epicentre of this tragedy?
Relatives have condemned the idea of a memorial, for the fear that it may be more of a tourist attraction or a curse.

There were 14 country representations on the flight and more than two-thirds of those on board were from China which lies more than 5,000km (3,100 miles) from Perth!

There are allegations that the Chinese relatives only found out about the memorial from media reports. And responded by writing an open letter to the Australian government in January calling for the plans to be scrapped!

They have not received a response. I cannot understand why Australia is attempting to be the decision maker in such state matters?

The missing aircraft belongs to Malaysia, the crew is ours, legally and otherwise and even international law points that it is our responsibility - not Australia's.

So in the interest of all concerned and common decency Australia please stop. I am certain Malaysia will initiate in this matter in due when the current search comes to an end in June.

I am sure at that stage, bearing results or no results, a decision will be taken by the Malaysian authorities to address all matters on the table.

May the Almighty, in the meantime, grant us all healing and peace with all understanding.

The writer is president, Consumers Association of Subang and Shah Alam (Cassa).

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