I read Pagan's letter ( Have compassion for those on receiving end ) with a lot of interest and sympathy, and I am truly sorry for him and his Muslim ex-girlfriend. I am also glad for them that they experienced what a lot of others are not so fortunate to experience.

But I felt that in quoting me, he was being a bit harsh. According to him, I said he deserved it and that my views did not take into account people's real life experiences. It sounded as though he felt I made the rules and the rules were not realistic or practical for people in his predicament.

For his information, my first girlfriend was Chinese and I still think fondly of her and often wished we could meet up and still be friends. But there's no point crying over spilled milk, I suppose.

I wish you the best and you're lucky you still got her, but as they say, rules are rules as far as our religion is concerned and it is good that you two went about your relationship with your eyes wide open.