I refer to the letter Stop endless gay persecution in Malaysia.

The writer should not suffer from a persecution complex. It is public knowledge that the Malaysian government is not just anti-gay but anti-everything that does not fit in with their ideas. So he should not exploit a few cases of gay prosecution as a pattern of persecution.

There are more important and worthy cases of persecution than gays who - like anyone who wants to have fun - break the moral code according to the authorities. We have seen Malays prosecuted for going to nightclubs, couples charged for holding hands in public, hotel rooms raided, etc.

Migrant workers are targeted by the police and they are the ones being persecuted, not gays.

Every weekend, Malaysians indulge in all kinds of social activities which the morally upright may consider immoral, eg, group sex, premarital sex, adulterous sex, etc. But these people do not get caught because they do not publicise their activities. And if they get caught they just hang their heads low and cop the flak. But gays cry persecution!

My point is no one should publicise his or her sexual activities or preferences so why should gays make such a song and dance about theirs? I am not anti-gay but I find gays too much when they try to force society to accept their same-sex lifestyle which has detrimentally affected male relationships with the perception that if you are a male and friendly with another male, then you must be gay.

The result is that normal male-to-male relationships have been affected. Even the women suffer from the same problem. Two married spinsters living together can be suspected of being lesbians.

My advice to gays is not to act in a way to draw attention to yourselves. For example, a hetereosexual man who flaunts his sexuality by parading around with women in a provocative manner will also attract unwanted attention.

It may disappoint gays but just as many people think adultery is wrong, many people think that gays are indulging in something wrong too. But today, gays would have us think that it is wrong to think they are wrong.

This brainwashing has worked in some liberal societies that have been swayed by tourist dollars but even they have set limits against gay marriages, and Malaysia is fortunate not to have capitulated to the gay lobby here and from overseas.

Gays must realise that every time they get into trouble it is not their being gay that is the cause but the way they behave and conduct themselves. Every group that becomes exclusive like gays will always cause others to treat them with suspicion, even hostility.

If I hold a party, I invite everyone including gays, why should gays only organise events for themselves? But they also want to participate in other events attended by everyone else.

Gays can be very prejudiced against non-gays and that is why they have exclusive gay bars and gay this and that. They will exclude non-gays. But if straight people do that and exclude gays they will cry 'persecution!'

It is time gays realise that they can't always cry foul when they themselves don't realise that there are ordinary people like me who are not anti-gay but have genuine concerns about gay lifestyles as much as other forms of sexual deviations from the norm eg, kinky sex, group sex, etc.

Gays need to take a long hard look at themselves and their attitudes and behaviour before they start crying ‘persecution’. It is they who are trying to undermine our traditional society, not we who are trying to undermine theirs.

People don't care if you are gay or straight but if you start flaunting your gay ways in people's faces or in some militant and organised way force society to accept your values and lifestyle, then expect a nasty reaction.

Gays must realise that just as it is their right to try to impose their ways on us, it is our right to reject them and fortunately unlike the West, we are still sane. I don't care what gays get up to and neither do the authorities as long as gays don't try to force us to accept their ways.

With religious zeal, the gay and lesbian communities may try to convert us but it is only fair that we too have a right to reject their ways and support the authorities for clamping down on any unsavoury activity, homosexual or otherwise.

Why don't the police raid football clubs where only men gather? I think the answer is obvious. If people want to group together and commit hanky-panky then don't complain when the authorities come around, gay or otherwise.

It is time gays grow up and behave more responsibly. There are many gays who live normal lives and do not attract attention to themselves. They could be your boss, colleague or anyone.

No one should make his or her sexual preference an issue unless they want to stir a hornet's nest especially in a country like Malaysia where Islam forbids same-sex sexual relationships.